I love quotes. I have a file on my computer of my favorite quotes for almost every occasion. Sometimes you just need a reminder that things will get better. I really do like to think that things happen for a reason. Reading Caitlin’s post Small Ripples on Wednesday got me thinking about my beliefs. Whether I believe we are following a path already paved for us, or if we really do have free will. If you haven’t read the post yet, I suggest you do. I guess my beliefs on this subject change from situation to situation. For me personally, it really does help to tell myself “it was meant to happen”. We all have days that we are struggling through. Telling myself this helps through those days.
One of my favorite quotes:
“There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.”
I think the biggest misconception is that just because we are smiling, we have no struggles. We all have those days where we just don’t want to get out of bed. Doing our hair and make-up isn’t a priority and let’s be honest, changing out of our sweatpants just isn’t going to happen today. Yes I will walk around the house all day in sweats and my hair in a pouf eating peanut butter cookies for breakfast, lunch and dinner thankyouverymuch. For me, I have been struggling getting over a breakup.
The kind of breakup that you have to keep all of the items you shared in the apartment you shared. The kind of breakup that every song has an inside joke behind it. The kind of breakup that every single thing you do reminds you of them because you were together every second.
I’ve been through breakups. But never anything like this. I’ve never felt my moods change so quickly with the days. Sadness. Happiness. Anger. Relief. Some days I feel like the break up is a mistake. There were so many good things about us, we can overlook the bad. Some days I realize this is the best thing for me. Why should I need to overlook anything? Needless to say, some days are definitely a struggle. Today is one of those days. Lately, I’ve been reading Heather’s I’m Not Married series. Sometimes it’s hard to talk about your struggles with people face to face, but reading about other’s experiences helps you realize these days of struggle are normal.
Today I came home from my vacation. It’s only been a month since the breakup, but I told myself the second I got home from this vacation, I would let it go. So in honor of my home-coming, we are going to be letting go of everything negative happening in our lives.
Is there a relationship from the future or present that is negative? Let it go. We need to surround ourselves with positive people. People who support us, make us laugh and we can’t live without.
Let go of jealousy. Who cares what he/she has? What car they drive? Who they are dating? What they have? Remember, they have their struggles too. You are you. Be the best you possible. Because you’re perfect the way you are.
Which leads me to insecurities. No one is perfect. Everyone has a part of their body, personality and life they wish they could change. Rather than focusing on what you dislike, focus on what you love about yourself.
Life is going to happen. Just like the quote says, “There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.” So let’s accept what we can’t change. Take a chance and learn the things we do not know. Let go of the negative people, it’s time to be positive.
What is something you love about yourself? What do you need to let go of?